Can you relate to this? I’m often scouting for ways to prove I’m right and others are wrong. I’m not proud of it. Part of the strategy involves searching out the worst examples of peoples’ beliefs and behavior then deciding those things are characteristic and normative, even essentially a part of who they are.
We’re building a set of mantras in our house, aphorisms that bundle up the ideas and values we want to guide our interactions as a family and how we follow Jesus. “Mess up, fess up,” for instance and “be grateful, not greedy.”